"It feels like 'come as you are' is only acceptable for those new to the church. There’s no room for those who have grown up Adventist to stretch out and figure out where they stand. I was raised Adventist. It’s pretty much all I’ve known. It would be really easy to continue this routine that was established for me by my parents through the rest of my life, but I want a faith of my own. I want to be able to truly believe for myself and not just because it’s what I know.
Figuring out who I am and what my faith is has been hard enough, and feeling judgment about my changes in appearance and choices I’ve made by those in the church has made it doubly hard. It feels like it’s easier to just go with the flow, attend church every week, look a certain way, do certain things- even if it’s not genuine. And of all the things that shouldn’t be, disingenuous faith is at the top of the list."