"Do the work you need to do before the marriage. Know who you are, what you need, and what you have to give to another person. In Jerry McGuire, Jerry, Tom Cruise, says to Dorothy, Renee Zellweger, 'you complete me,' and all across the country people said, 'that’s so romantic.' No. It’s not. It’s foolish. The only person who should 'complete you' is Jesus Christ.
So – rule number one: don’t look for another person to complete you. That’s a great way to be sure a marriage won’t last. Once you get married, remind each other of what drew you together and don’t take that for granted. Even when kids come, don’t forget to put each other first. The best gift you can give your children is parents who love and are committed to each other. Remember that what truly makes a marriage is commitment. Decide that you will do all you can to stay committed to one another- assuming, of course, no abuse. Talk. A lot. Even when you don’t want to. Fight fair. No name calling. No calling up of ancient history. Laugh often and loudly. Tell yourself and others every day that you’re the lucky one who somehow, out of all the people in the world, ended up with the right one. If you do that, your one will be the right one – eventually."