"My parents have been together for 27 years, and much of that time has been spent as being roommates. My mom was 18 years old when she married my dad. Looking at their marriage, I didn’t want that to be me- a miserable marriage.
The New International Version reads: 'Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.' I grapple with this verse a lot. I talk about loving God, and have that as an integral part of who I am- thankfulness for what He’s done, and how His love is overflowing, but even now with my Christian parents having their children as the only bond that holds them together, or in my incredibly frayed relationship with my father, I don’t know how I can make that claim without contradicting the Bible.
In December I will be married for two years, and I love my husband so much. He’s an incredible man who shows selfless love to me in so many ways. But it’s hard not to think of my parents’ marriage and how broken they’ve become over the years. I told my husband when we were doing premarital counseling that, although divorce was not looked upon gracefully by God, I would still do it. I wouldn’t want to go through what my mom does. I still haven’t made peace with that. My only hope is that we do better than my parents, and continue working toward better."