"I guess if I was to look at the big picture, I really want to reach my full potential in everything. I want to 'shake hands with failure.'
To me 'shaking hands with failure' means I know I met my limit and there's almost nothing I could do to further myself in that area of my life. For example, I wanted to go to the US Air Force Academy. I applied twice, but it was clear I didn't have the connections- no military in my family, not many athletic letters from high school sports, and I wasn't very much into class leadership- a staple of an applicant. So I made peace with my denial of entry to the USAFA knowing I was never going to get in. I 'shook hands with failure.'
I think it's a gutsy mentality to have, to want to run yourself to your full capacity. But it's not a mentality that can ever be satisfied. It would be completely inappropriate to do that in a marriage, for example. Like, 'I've married this woman but I'm keeping my eyes open for something better just in case.' A stable relationship could never be built. I just want to live life ambitiously."